Getting to Know Borderline Personality Disorder
What is Borderline Personality Disorder?
The behavior of an adult diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD)—the symptoms, destructive tendencies, and random outbursts—are all normal and deliberate behavior meant to shield the diagnosed from potential threats and bouts of depression. According to the author of “Anonymous Account of Borderline Personality Disorder, ” the behavior of a person diagnosed with BPD, is much like the normal behavior of a child. A traumatic event in their youth caused their psychological and emotional growth to cease, and they are only capable of what they were only at the time of the traumatic event, even as they grew physically and intellectually.1
The first lessons children learn are polarized, to tell the difference between good and bad, and then to attach the feelings of love and hate to the concepts, respectfully.1 Expressed by a child, these concepts and feelings lack depth, as they can express true love towards something agreeable one moment and hate towards something disagreeable the next. However, short term behavior as such is normal child behavior, that with maturation will develop further. Therefore, if maturation doesn’t occur, as with those with Borderline Personality Disorder, the behaviors will not change.1
Children also do not accept responsibility for their bad behavior, always displacing it onto someone else. When an adult with BPD feels emotionally stressed and is stuck inside the childish portion of their psyche, they will always see themselves as the victim of the situation.1 However, with adult intellect, it is easier for them to manipulate the situation, and no matter what happened, will always deny their fault, much like a child does.
Borderline Personality and Mind Escape
A child is dependent upon an external source for his wellbeing and understands that he is unable to take responsibility for his wellbeing himself. When pushed to take responsibility for his independence too soon, the child feels emotionally betrayed, which may cause him to repress feelings of confidence and growth beyond what he is capable of at the point the responsibility was given.1 Therefore, to substitute those feelings, the person will give off the feeling of confidence and security even though inside he feels empty of such feelings. His physical and intellectual being, material objects, and friendly relationships become a crutch for the person to feel secure.1 However, as the child becomes a teenager, they become aware of their fake exterior, a sign the author states shows the intellect and the emotion are imbalanced, but the person is unable to identify how. At the age where they are exposed to many unacceptable habits, a person with Borderline Personality Disorder will take on those that are destructive for entertainment and relief from their inner feelings.1 According to the author, mind escape is important to people with BPD, and the sources that provide them such become a crutch.1
A child admires his parents; therefore, if something devastating severs the admiration, the child will feel lost and betrayed. According to the author, since the child can no longer depend upon his parents, he will look to substitute them with someone else who meets the qualifications for his admiration.1 The search will continue until the child becomes independent, and in cases of those with Borderline Personality Disorder, will not happen even into adulthood as their psyche remains that of a child. Therefore, while a person with BPD is only able to give a limited amount of love but is in need of unconditional in return, any serious relationships the person engages in looks to still replace the parental figure. According to the author, the significant other will experience a relationship much like one between a parent and a child, and with the behavior received sometimes being sarcastic and withdrawn, it is because the person with Borderline Personality Disorder views their significant other as a threat who is able to hurt them in the same way the original parental figure did.1 However, the person with BPD doesn’t want the significant other to leave the relationship, despite all of the mistreatment.
Borderline Personality and Trauma
The author states that a person with Borderline Personality Disorder presents behavior that is based upon their insecurity and fear, leading them to overreact to mild stressors, become angry and/or depressed over moderate stressors, and reach panic, rage, and/or depression when subjected to major stressors.1 Although the author states that the mental health community considers chemical imbalances and genetics as BPD’s origin, he believes that a traumatic developmental tragedy is more likely the cause.1 Therefore, the author believes counseling will help the diagnosed reconstruct a healthy psychological and emotional being.1 Until the person with Borderline Personality Disorder understands and overcomes their condition, their lives will continue to be overburdened by it.
 Anonymous. (n.d.). Anonymous Account of the Borderline Personality Disorder. In Psychology Degree. Retrieved December 28, 2011, from http://www.psychologydegree.net/wp-content/themes/EduNetwork/psychology-resources/pdfs/7-Anonymous Account of the Borderline Personality Disorder.pdf Borderline Personality.