Love Yourself, You Deserve It
Give Yourself Love and Respect
Happiness comes from within. Although it’s human nature to desire being wanted and loved by others in order to make us feel valued and happy, being able to love and value yourself is just as important—if not more. Everyone deserves love, respect, and appreciation.1 If you are able to give that to yourself, others will follow suit.1
It is never too late to learn how to love yourself.1 Need help? Here are a few things that can help you find that inner love.
- Spend Time Alone. Being alone is scary, even if it’s only for a couple of hours a day; however, it is important to spend some time with yourself enjoying a favorite activity.1 You could read, go for a walk, watch a movie, go shopping, bake something—it’s up to you!1 If you don’t feel like you have a hobby, explore.1 Try new things. Take in your surroundings. Pay attention to your feelings.1 Most importantly, don’t stress.1 Take advantage of this “you time.” See who you really are.1
- Meditation. It’s not for everyone, but it’s a way to spend quality, quiet time with yourself.1 Just a few minutes can help lessen your stress and restore your calm and inner peace. It is considered a type of mind-body complementary medicine.2 While meditating, focus your attention on filing away your worries in a file cabinet in your mind and look inside yourself to find self-love.2 It increases your self-awareness and allows you to gain a new perspective on yourself and your life.2
- Self-Affirmation. Be nice to yourself. Shower yourself in compliments.3 Look in the mirror and say 10 positive things about yourself.3 It can be difficult at times, but thinking positively about yourself only deepens your self-love.3 Honor yourself and your accomplishments, even if they seem small.3 Be patient. You will start to really believe what you say about yourself.3
- Treat Others with Love and Respect. When you bring joy to the lives of others, you will find joy in your own life.3 People will start to treat you with the same respect, and you will feel self-worth.3 Be positive, supportive, and polite.3 You’ll feel amazing about yourself.3
- Express Yourself. Journal. Paint. Sketch. If you’re not artsy, that’s okay. Try it. Take some photographs while you’re out for a walk. Re-paint some furniture. Being creative helps you gain insight into yourself.3
- Don’t Define Yourself By What You’ve Done. Celebrate your accomplishments and let go of your “failures.”3 You learn by your mistakes.3 You can’t succeed without not succeeding first. You’re not defined by your “failures.”3 Success is not a destination, but making progress towards the desires of your heart.3 Accept that and accept yourself.3 You’ll love yourself more for it.
- Be Yourself. Don’t change who you are for other people.3 Laugh, play, sing, be crazy.3 Don’t be afraid of what others think about you.3 Many times, people are afraid to show their true self.3 Once you do and become comfortable in your own skin, you’ll start to love yourself for who you really are.3
- Treat Yourself Like You Are Your Best Friend. Treat yourself with love, kindness, trust, acceptance, and respect.3 You wouldn’t say negative things to your best friend, so why say them to yourself? Listen deeply to your needs and fulfill them.3 Know your boundaries.3 Be kind to yourself.3 Love yourself.
- Nurture Yourself. Taking care of yourself is very important.3 Shower, wear clothes that make you feel good, and get a good haircut. Exercise and eat healthy.3 Listen to songs that make you feel happy.3 Treat yourself like you are extremely important—you are!
- Don’t Compare Yourself to Others. Everyone is unique.3 If you compare yourself to others, you begin to feel negatively about yourself, especially if its regarding money, employment, or your home.3 You’ll lose your self-esteem and confidence.3 Instead, focus on your own strengths and discover what your greatest gift is, and share it with the world.3 Practice being grateful for what you have and how it suits you.3 This will keep your heart open to love, especially self-love.3 No one is just like you.3 You’re the best at being you, and be grateful for how wonderful you are.3
 Callender, K. (2013, October 6). It Starts With Loving Yourself. Psych Central. Retrieved October 7, 2013, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/lessons/2013/10/it-starts-with-loving-yourself/
 Clinic Staff. (2013, July 13). Meditation: Take a stress-reduction break wherever you are. Mayo Clinic. Retrieved October 7, 2013, from http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/meditation/HQ01070
 Consoli, A. (n.d.). How to Love Yourself: 24 Steps. wikiHow. Retrieved October 7, 2013, from http://www.wikihow.com/Love-Yourself